How to be a Good Grandparent

So what if you have been the best mum, or a loving dad in the past, you now have an additional expectation to meet; that of being a good grandparent. When it comes to grandparenting, it is akin to honing your parenting skills and what beats being the best? Absolutely nothing.

George Banks must accept the reality of what his daughter’s ascension from daughter to wife, and now, to mother means when placed into perspective against his own stage of life …. George must now contend not only with his new status as a grandfather …” ~ Father of the Bride Part II

One of the most important appraisals in life comes forth when you become a grandparent, it thus makes you an important member to be cherished, valued and loved, nevertheless. Your sole duty as a grandparent is to enrich and inspire the life of your grandchild. Now that won’t be much of a hurdle, especially if you have been a parent before and know the tricks to right parenting. The best part of being a grandparent is that you get to revisit your childhood, play with innocence and recreate memories of a different kind altogether. In a family, if parents are the building blocks, grandparents become the base pillars and the cement that holds the family in place, at all times. Grandparenting is no rocket science. If you trust your instincts, you would certainly know how to be a good grandparent.

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BEING A GOOD GRANDPARENT

Between You and Your Child

Between You and Your Child

Grandparents are the footsteps to the future generations. ~ Author Unknown

You have another member to share your child with, and invariably, your child becomes the link between you and your grandchild. Hence, it is absolutely essential that you maintain a healthy bond with your child. Respect your child and his/her spouse with their decisions to raise their offspring. Offering a helping hand is a good gesture, but keep it minimalistic to avoid interfering in their parenting skills.

Spend Quality Time

Spend Quality Time

To become a grandparent is to enjoy one of the few pleasures in life for which the consequences have already been paid. ~ Robert Brault

A loved one doesn’t seek for monetary gifts, rather seeks a loving companionship. Spending quality time with your grandchild will work in your favor and strengthen the bond between you and your grandchild. Children learn by listening; it would benefit you if you keep a few stories ready in mind. In the initial days, you might be expected to help around with caring for the child. Be prepared to give your time and attention.

Babysit your Grandchild

Babysit your Grandchild

Everyone needs to have access both to grandparents and grandchildren in order to be a full human being. ~ Margaret Mead

Offer to babysit the child in case your son/daughter is a working dad/mom. New parents will obviously need someone around to help about with caring for the child. Do your bit to help your child, but remember never to overdo things, for it may seem to be intruding on the young parents. Your presence will be much appreciated when you give your child and his/her spouse their own space with their child.

Make them Love and Care for You

Strengthen Bonds

To a small child, the perfect granddad is unafraid of big dogs and fierce storms but absolutely terrified of the word “boo.” ~ Robert Brault

Strengthen your bond with your grandchild by making every visit interesting and meaningful. Sing them songs, play with them, pamper them with gifts, tell them stories, talk to them, make them gurgle with laughter; do everything to make them feel special. Even if you are staying a mile away from your grandchildren and cannot meet them very often, make it a point to call and ask about them; besides, do whatever it takes to make them want to come back to meet you.

Plan Activities

Plan Activities

Grandparents are there to help the child get into mischief they haven’t thought of yet. ~ Gene Perret

To be a good grandparent, become popular among your grandchildren. Meticulously plan out fun activities and tasks that you can do with your grandchild. You can even assign a few tasks where they can help you out as well as bond with you. Activities like car washing, lawn mowing, gardening, fruit plucking, carpentry, cooking, etc., can be more fun when it is done in the company of your grandchild. Make everyday activities fun and interesting for the new learner, you never know your grandchild might enjoy doing what you do best. Besides, your grandchildren will remember you for all the fun time they had with you.

Impart Family Values

Impart Family Values

Grandparents hold our tiny hands for just a little while, but our hearts forever. ~ Author Unknown

When it comes to the moral upbringing of the child, parents mostly rely on the grandparents to impart the traditional values. Grandparents are meant to pamper the child, but remember to do it in moderation so that the child is not spoiled for choice. Whenever you get the opportunity to be with your family, grab it I’ll say and use it to teach (not preach) your grandchild about the customs and traditions. Every once in a while get the family together and spend time with your entire family.

Truly I tell you, there is no blessing greater than having a grandparent or two, to comfort and give solace, especially when you feel that things are going the wrong way. The loving gentle arms of a grandmother can wipe away the blues of not just an infant but also of the seemingly lost teenager. To my grandparents who have always been instrumental in my growth years … “I can’t stop loving and remembering them!”


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The Good Old Dancing

According to a recent suggestion made by Joseph Jordania, dance together with body painting and rhythmic music, was a tool used by the natural selection’s forces in the early ages of mankind’s development for putting human groups into a certain state of battle trance. He explains that it was a very particular alternative state of consciousness. By it, individual would lose their personal identity and acquire a new type of identity, a collective one. According to Jonathan Pieslak’s researches, some contemporary military units have the habit of singing loud and dancing in order to get ready for the perilous combat mission they are about to embark on. Jordania says that dance’s ability to induce this state of trance comes from the past of the human development and it also includes some sort of military drill which also relies on sharing rhythmical and monotonous group activity.

Dance has existed from the beginnings of time. Perhaps it even appeared before the very first tribes were formed, but most certainly dance grew in popularity with the development of tribal life. So dance has always been a part of people’s lives, although they did sometimes perform more than the entertainment function. Dances just had to be based on themes such as death, birth, the revival of nature in springtime, marriage, the teenagers’ growing up, hunting, winning a battle or war with one’s neighbors. Dance was also used for worshiping gods, agriculture, sexuality, chasing away evil spirits or for prosperity bringing rituals.

In time, dance lost all of these significances so that today it is only a form of art. It also has a communicative function among the participants. Aristotle explained the origins of rhythm by referring to one’s heart beats, the perfect metronome. Many types of dances appeared throughout time, which had different meanings but one single purpose, that of revealing the most elaborate movements, the moral conduct, the manners and the elegance of the dancer. In the European culture the very first record of dancing belongs to Homer. In his “Iliad”, Homer describes “chorea”(χορεία khoreia). The early ancient Greeks had turned the dance art into a sort of system, encompassing and expressing all the other different passions. For instance, the dance of the so-called “Furies” could generally create a very realistic atmosphere of terror and horrors, so that the audience was deeply moved. Dancing was ranked by the famous Greek philosopher named Aristotle with poetry. He said that certain dancers are able to apply rhythm to their gestures in such a way that they could actually express actions, manners, passions. What is interesting to know here is that the most prominent Greek sculptors closely studied and observed dancers’ attitude and movements in order to find inspiration in their art works.

In the beginning, there wasn’t any big difference between folk and social dances but in time they gained some other aspects. The minuet was from the 17th century on, a dance of elegance because it was practiced at the aristocratic courts. Waltz was quite popular during its age but also quite controversial because of the close distance between the two dance partners. The two World Wars have reshaped the entire dance fashion. So in the 20th century foxtrot and shimmy appeared. From the Swing improvisations of the 40s Jitterbug also appeared. Later on, in the 50s, rock-n-roll also appeared.

Ballroom dance can be either American, or international. In the American style, there are rhythmical and smooth dances. The “rhythmical” category of the American style is similar to the Latin-American one of the international style, the same as the “smooth” category is similar to the “standard” category. Ballroom dance could be considered a social dance because it encourages social interaction, and also because partners dance in pairs. The typical principles can be applied to any type of dance, be it rock, disco or classical waltz and this is because the ballroom dance has strict tempo of 3/4 or 4/4. Out of the international or Latin-American dances the most notorious rhythms include: meringue, salsa, mambo, bossa nova and many others. All these can be included in the Latino section of the international class, together with rumba, cha-cha-cha, samba, paso doble and jive. The standard section includes Viennese Waltz, slow Waltz, Tango, Slow Fox, Quick Step, etc.


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